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Christian Celibacy - If Meagan Good Can Do It, So Can You

So Meagan Good is getting married and she has not slept with her fiancee. They plan on being together for the first time on their wedding night.

 

From what I can ascertain they have actually been dating for about a year although they have know each other a bit longer. Celibacy will make a man jump the broom fast or keep stepping quick. SN: She met her fiance while filming the movie Jumping the Broom.

Celibacy in your relationship is an act of faith. You are believing God that you are going to be married and intimacy is sacred. Put God first, fast and pray. Your first love should be God and then the love you have with your future spouse will be blessed beyond measure.

 

I know a lot of Christians falter in this area but keep trying.

Celibacy rocks!

Tevin Campbell - Tell Me What You Want Me To Do

Imma let you finish but the '90's had the best music of all time, of ALL TIME! lol Seriously if you don't love this song, check your pulse because you don't have a heart.

 

 

Dating Sucks and Other Midweek Epiphanies

I think I should watch Think Like A Man against all the intellectual protests because thinking like me does not work.

I am just too me!

I think too much, overly analyze everthing.

I expect too much, always disappointed.

I believe too much, am too emotional, just too me!

The conundrum is I like being me. I want to be overly affectionate, expect a lot and not be disappointed, be able to be myself and not "play the game."Is it so wrong to be excited about someone up front, geez? Am I supposed to treat you like dirt at first?

Another problem - married friends have no sound advice and single friends are just like me! lol

So, I am open for suggestions. What dating tips do you have? This just may be my next book.

OAN:

Why are Wednesdays so hard? I mean, I am grateful to be working, but not a Wednesday goes by without me thinking it is actually Thursday. When I find out it is Wednesday, I am a bit deflated.

I need a visit home like now. I miss my mommy. Plus I need to scout out some convents. Clearly God does not want me dating. lol J/K Lord, J/K!

 

P.S. I found a new blog. The Single Black Female.

 

Balcony Garden - Early Girl Tomatoes Update

O.M.Bananas. I was getting down about my little tomato plant. I planted them April 21st and two weeks later I saw the first flowers. Then yellow spots appeared on the leaves and the flowers fell off. A friend suggested that I start talking to my early girls and I begged then to grow lol. Today a full four weeks since planting, I looked to where the flowers had been and NOTHING.

I grew a bit despondent and started to examine the vine to see if I could determing what was wrong. Low and behold, that is when I saw them. The beginnings of my first fruits!

Plant the seed, water it and God gives the increase. (1 Corinthians 3:6) And to think I almost missed it focusing on the flowers that I had lost when right on the other side of my plant were my first fruits!

 

Look at God!

To Chase Or Be Chased

I am at the pharmacist asking about potassium supplements the other day and the guy behind the counter starts flirting big time. We have this long drown out conversation. He is asking the whole where did you go to school, do you have any kids, joke, joke, clever repartee.

He then lets me know that he is actually the pharmcist he just did not put on the white coat. I tease him about looking so young, joke, laugh, clever repartee. Then he says, "Well you probably won't see me again. I got a promotion and I am moving to the other store."

Long story short. He introduced himself, shook my hand and. . . NOTHING!

All that time and he did not ask for my phone number. I was almost tempted to go back and hand him my card but something prevented me - maybe fear or maybe something else.

I always believe that God orchestrates things in HIS divine timing. He will give you your heart desires when your ways please HIM. (Psalms 37:4) I have had plenty of opportunities to date but something is always missing. I call it the "God Thing", the spirit telling me, this is the one. Plus, I am a girly girl and I want to be chased and not the chaser. I may run a little slow or fall so that he can catch up. lol

Much to the chagrin of a few friends (and a sister who thinks that I am too picky), I choose to wait on God for that man of destiny to desire me enough to Ready, Set, Go!

God's Promises are Yeah and Amen

Usually this blog is all about me - what I am doing, what I want.This time I wanted to celebrate someone else.

Many of you know that I have journaled my experiences in Dallas, TX since I touched down nearly five years ago. Today I attended a graduation of a friend who moved to Dallas, TX about 1 month earlier than me.

 

I sat and marveled at what God has done in her life. I have told her that I remember our conversation that we had when I had first moved here and she was showing me around town. She stated how she wanted a husband and family. She was in seminary. Here I was sitting, today, in the audience as she received her Master's Degree with her husband and baby sitting to my left.

I marvelled at how faithful God is. I know that I am single with no children but seeing God fulfil promises for others lets me know that he is a promise fulfilling God.

 

I am just glad I was around to see it.

 

Heat Damaged Hair - The 1 Week Repair Test

So I really needed my ends clipped BAD and I usually do it myself but I thought, girl treat yourself. So I had someone straighten and clip my ends. Beautiful cut, style - very BAD ENDS results.

 

The Straightened do.

The heat damage. Hair is straight near the roots and will not revert back to curls.

When flat irons are too hot they break the bonds in your hair that create the curling pattern, similar to a relaxer. Stylists unfamiliar with the natural mindset think that you want your hair to "last" and be "bone" straight. I wanted neither, I just wanted my ends clipped.

So now I need to repair my hair. I have been reading good things about almond oil and apple cider vinegar. So My experiment will be - apple cider and water rinse (instead of shampoo wash), almond/glycerin spray, and almond oil massage/ silk bonnet at night.

Since the straightening episode, which was a couple months ago, I have noticed hair shed. One week of this routine and I will update you on the results.

Recipes below:

1. Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse

1 cup apple cider vinegar

4-5 cups of bottled water

Rinse hair in the shower with water, detangle with wide tooth comb, add apple cider vinegar rinse, leave on a few minutes, then rinse with cool water. This seals the cuticle shaft and will help eliminate frizz. You will notice the results instantly as your hair will feel silkier.

2. Vegetable Glycerin and Water Spritz

1:4 or 1:5 ratio of vegetable glycerin to water

Place ingredients in a spray bottle and shake until glycerin is dissolved completely.

Spray after apple cider rinse, massage into hair, add almond oil to seal in moisture.

 

This is my first time using almond oil so I am opting to add it separately to my hair instead of adding it to the spritz.

Results in one week.

Balcony Garden - Early Girl Tomatoes Update

It has only been two weeks and there are budding flowers on my tomato plant. Oh my gosh, I could cry.

Overkill?

After watering every morning faithfully and seeing nothing it rains. The natural H2O must have done the trick because the next day - voila!

I may need to up my watering from 16 oz a day to 32 oz.

 

I feel so accomplished!

Blues for Mr. Charlie - James Baldwin

I was going to go see Think Like A Man when I decided to do something a little more intellectually stimulating. I perused my email for event alerts and check out Art and Seek and find that SMU is performing a James Baldwin play. I recalled reading the play in college so I thought this may be interesting and it is only $13.00.

I was simply blown away. The caliber of production and acting was far above what I have seen in college productions. There were a couple of weak cast members but overall quite professional.

Above the production quality the story drama was shockingly relevant today. Let me backtrack a bit. Blues for Mr Charlie is about the killing of a young, cocky black man who comes back to the south after being "ruined" up North by a white man. The dialogue and character development are so layered. Baldwin gets into the psyche of his characters and the story develops into something more complex than the black versus the white side of things. A picture of Trayvon Martin hauntingly swung from a tree wrapped in newspaper headlines.

I cannot tell you how Think Like A Man ends. I have heard a thing or too about Michael Ealy and a seen with Taraji Henson and chocolate. lol I can tell you that I made the right entertainment choice and left the theater feeling a little more enlightened than when I came.

A Friend With Mental Illness Is Still A Friend

I was over at The Black Snob, and read a post in which she discusses living with bipolar disorder. The post was enlightening, especially because now she is able to manage the illness and live a productive life.

I read the post and felt an eerie sense of deja vu. I had a friend who suffered from mental illness. Well, she was not just a friend, she was my best friend in high school . We lost touch in our college years and reconnected maybe three years ago. She helped me tremendously with my book that I have yet to publish.

She had symptoms of the illness like insomnia, mania, hospitalizations. I tried to console her during our conversations but I did not have the knowledge or experience to understand. I would tell her positive things and pray with her. Then this fear started to develop in me. When I had not heard from her in a few weeks, I would call to make sure everything was okay.

I remember our last conversation, she said all of the right things but nothing was right about the things she said. The only way I can describe it is that it is like talking to someone who is in an aquarium. You can make out the words they are saying but they are coming from a place where a person should not be speaking from.

I would love to tell you that my friend learned to cope with the illness or found deliverance but sadly she did not. A got a message from her sister that she had passed away. The sister sent the message via FaceBook of all mediums. I was at work when the message that was forwarded to my email was received. I was so upset my manager told me that I could take the day off.

I often think back to that last conversation and I wonder what could have been said or done differently. The truth is, I knew something was fundamentally wrong but I did not know how to help. I just always let her know that I cared for her and was rooting for her success. I never guessed it would all lead to suicide.